When it came to Uncle, Chicago was like paradise. It was his mental Narnia. He often chatted about how those years in the windy city affected him. A young Puerto Rican man, single, riding his motorbike, and cohorting with Latinos from across the world. In perspective, I see he was talking about freedom, which is…

It was a reddit feed  where men asked each other for life and dating advice, of which my eyes poured in looking for the chisme. Who were these MEN that circle us gals like sharks eager to bite our meat but forgetting there is a soul in this sack of carne. Had they known I…

1) Deserve is not desire and vice versa. My father always went for what he wanted, but what made him evil is that he wanted harm. He did not ever figure in whether he was morally worthy of what he wished for, especially in terms of money. To manifest, morals are simply not in the…

I am a stoic or, at least, I try to be. For me, stoicism is the route to positivism, and the belief that all that happens to you, good or bad, is for your benefit. It is a sort of miracle based mindset. You cannot lose if the universe is on your side, but, more…

Sometimes, I feel like I’m just waiting to have a life or really to feel like it is my own. When you are raised to please everyone, and assume your pleasure, in you, makes you selfish, self-absorbed, and a bad person; life kind of feels like a giant waiting room for the next person to…

As a woman, it is hard not to imagine a life that was NOT fear-based. Anxiety is born from how we find ourselves in situations we did not ask to be in, and forever believe that energy will follow us. Its is giving the past an eternal pen to write our future, and it SUCKS…

How to Avoid A MR. H. is a series that reflects on podcast episodes with a worksheet. Each spiritual homework matches a theme of its aligned episode, which, in this one, it is Uncle Martin. How To Know You Are With A Mr. H:  Respect  The Other Brother Reflections  Red Flag: If he is too…

My father was perverse. A predator indignant and undeserving of any humanity that came from me, but my mother was spiritual, cultural and had a faith that moved her to believe your father… is your father, even if he is a failure. Thus, when I think of forgiveness I do not think of my dad.…

Women talk about sex, and we enjoy it, if a man is good. the keyword IF. For a lot of us, we could not explain the rising obsession misogynistic men had with women becoming loose: both sexually and economically. For The Producer, a man who could barely bust a nut unless it was filled with…

Being able to call my dad a piece of shit, has been surprisingly liberating, and not in this vindictive kind of way. It feels cathartic, powerful, and I hope in time totally relieving over the fact that he was, actually,. In essence, I am giving myself the freedom to call my father a horrible human…